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I would like to share that my three
old loves this book about Diwali- Diwali: Khushiyon Ka Tyohaar/Diwali:
A Festival of Lights & Fun. I certainly do recommend this book to
parents with young kids.
~ A Dad, USAPosted on October 11, 2009
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My daughter who is 4 years old has become very disrespectful.
She talks back to me and to other elders in the family.
We are all very concerned. I have tried to talk to her, at times
when nothing works I have spanked her on her bottom.
Please help!
~ A Concerned Mom, India
posted September 26, 2009
I'm sure this must be frustrating that nothing is working. One
suggestions though....no spanking please as this technique really
doesn't work. Please read about the new research on spanking and
children's IQ. Link is on www.myindianchild.org.
Please continue to work with your child on this issue. Parents must be
consistent in disciplining their children. Consider observing your
child for a few weeks to see what may be causing this behavior. Reflect
on any changes that may have occurred in her life recently. Observe
yourself and other adults in the family to see how each one of you
interacts with her. Look for any triggers. Once you have identified the
cause it will help you deal with the situation better.
A great way to introduce a topic before talking about is to read books about it. Here are a few recommended readings.....
(If these books aren't available in India, please substitute with appropriate children's books)
1. How to Speak Politely & Why by Munro Leaf. ISBN: 0789313529
2. Emily's Everyday Manners by Cindy Post Senning. ISBN: 0060761741
3. My Manners Matter: A First Book At Being Polite by Pat Thomas. ISBN: 0764132121
HOW CHILD BECOMES BILINGUAL?
It is a fine article. In Indian Metros like Mumbai, a child is under
pressure
to become "multi-lingual"!!It is more complex if the parents
of the child are
having different mother-tongues. Take the case of my
own
grandchild(5 years ).
Mother-marathi
Father-malayalam
Friends(mostly)-Hindi
School-English
She has picked up marathi,hindi,english.But shows little inclination
to pick up malayalam.Infact, she mocks malayalam accent.
Is it a child's fault that she is subjected to such a
peculiar situation in Metros?
What are your views? How many langauges a child should
or can pick up before the age of 7 years.
~A Grandpa, India
posted: September 20, 2009
I hear you! Yes, there may be tremendous social pressure to be
multilingual.
Which is not easy. Certainly it is not the child's fault
if they don't learn a specific language.
Children are like
sponges...they will absorb everything that comes their way- good or
bad.
Their early life experiences makes them the adult they will be.
Research has proven that MOST brain development occurs in the first
3 years of life.
Even though most Child Development Specialists and
psychologists say that
children can learn many languages by age 7, I
believe that children need
to hear these languages on daily basis
in first 3 years of their life and
to continue hearing and have the opportunity to converse in these languages
at least until age 7 in order to learn them. There is no limitation
on how many
languages a child can learn.
In your granddaughter's case she probably spends most
of her time with her
mom who probably speaks to her in Marathi and at school she speaks
English
and with friends she probably speaks Hindi. Therefore she
has learned these languages.
However if the dad who is a native Malyalam speaker did not interact with her in Malyalam
on a daily basis but instead spoke to her either in Marathi, Hindi, or English
during those first 3 years of
her life perhaps that's why she never got to
practice
Malyalam and did not learn this language.
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I have noted that if I give too much attention to my new-born
granddaughter, my older granddaughter (5 years) does
some tricks to divert my attention to her!!
~A Grandpa, India
posted: September 20, 2009
As far as your older granddaughter's attention seeking behavior that is pretty common
for
a child her age particularly in a family with a new baby. In fact some
older kids ( 6+)
resort to this behavior and some of the older kids'
behaviors are more complex
and problematic.
I know you probably like spending time with both granddaughters, my recommendation
would be to consider a possibility during your visits to
have a set time to spend just with
your older grandchild, a set time just to spend
with the newborn, and a set time to
spend with both together.
This way each child gets quality time to spend with Grandpa (this
goes for parents as well).
Besides the older child can be told of when
grandpa will spend time with her so that the
older child does not feel
the need to display attention seeking behavior and
take the quality
time away from the younger sibling and at the same time feels reassured
that she will get the due attention.
I hope this strategy works for you!
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